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Fool Me Once, Shame On Me. Fool Me Twice…..

I thought I would start this topic to deal with a seldom talked about issue here within our growing community:

courting fraud

It is an issue that impacts both single people searching for companions (such as myself), and marriage partners looking to add to their current family situation.

I will be brave and step out here and confess that I have been a victim of courting fraud. More than a year ago I met someone online through a Christian dating site. Through a series of conversations, I discovered that she was open to the concept of plural marriage, and we had lengthy discussions concerning the subject.

She seemed sincere. She was knowledgeable about the Bible and Christian subjects in general. She seemed genuine in her faith. She had a testimony of faith that seemed legitimate.

But it was all fake. Every bit of it. To this day, looking back, I am not even sure who she was, or if she was even a woman. Sigh.

Apparently this person was able through online searches and public information to create a profile that would be an enticement. I fell for it, hook, line and sinker. When I discovered the truth, my heart was broken.

I wish that I could say that my case was unique, but after speaking with several families and individuals, I have discovered that I am not the only one to be fooled. I think what happens is that at times we are searching so hard to find that ‘perfect match’ that when someone comes along even generally meeting some of those qualities, we seem to suspend belief and sometimes just plain old common sense. We WANT it to be right, we BELIEVE it to be right, and then we are shocked to discover we have been fooled.

Believe me, I understand how difficult it is. For me as a single person, finding a companion that is open to just the CONCEPT of plural marriage severely limits the dating pool. In fact, I think it is easier for families to add a companion than for a single person to find another single person open to the concept. Maybe it is because the marri…


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The Right Time For Marriage

The right time for marriage is different for each person and unique to each situation. Maturity levels and life experiences are varying factors; some people are ready for marriage at 18, and some are never prepared for it. As the U.S. divorce rate exceeds 50 percent, it is obvious that much of our society does not view marriage as an everlasting commitment. However, this is the world’s view, which will usually contradict God’s (1 Corinthians 3:18).

A strong foundation is imperative for a successful marriage and should be settled before one even begins to date or court a potential life mate. Our Christian walk should include much more than just attending church on Sundays and being involved in Bible study. We must have a personal relationship with God that comes only through trusting in and obeying Jesus Christ. We must educate ourselves about marriage, seeking God’s view on it, before diving in. A person must know what the Bible says about love, commitment, sexual relations, the role of a husband and wife, and His expectations of us before committing to marriage. Having at least one Christian married couple as a role model is also important. An older couple can answer questions about what goes into a successful marriage, how to create intimacy (beyond the physical), how faith is invaluable, etc.

A prospective married couple also needs to make sure that they know each other well. They should know each other’s views on marriage, finances, in-laws, child-rearing, discipline, duties of a husband and wife, whether only one of them or both will be working outside the home, and the level of the other person’s spiritual maturity. Many people get married taking their partner’s word for it that they are a Christian, only to find out later that it was merely lip service.

Marriage is not only a commitment, but a covenant with God. It is the promise to remain with that other person for the remainder of your life, no matter whether your spouse is rich, poor, healthy, sick, overweig…


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The First Fundamental for A Life of Faith: Humility

Jesus Christ was called throughout the gospels a "teacher." Dr. Howard G. Hendricks, the famous professor of Dallas Theological Seminary, stated: "Within the gospels one of the most frequently used designations is Teacher; it occurs forty-five times. Fourteen times he is referred to as Rabbi. So it is obvious that one of the prominent functions of our Lord during His public ministry was teaching."

But what is the the most fundamental quality that is necessary before a person can learn? One must demonstrate the character quality of humility. The opposite of humility is pride.

Here are a few quotes by some excellent leaders of our Christian heritage that convey the idea of humility.

Clement of Rome (Apostle Paul’s disciple who took over the Church of Rome after he departed; lived from AD 30 to AD 100; probably traveled with Peter and Paul, see Phil. 4:3) said of humility: "For Christ is of those who are humble-minded, and not those who exalt themselves over His flock. Our Lord Jesus Christ . . . did not come in the pomp of pride or arrogance, although He might have done so, but in a lowly condition, as the Holy Spirit had declared regarding him."

Again, Clement said: "Abraham was specially honored, and was called the friend of God; yet he, earnestly, regarding the glory of God, humbly declared, ‘I am but dust and ashes.’"

Ignatius (who lived from AD 30 to 100 AD and was a contemporary and student of the apostles) had this to say of humility when responding to those who persecute you: "Be ye humble in response to their wrath . . . . conquer ye their harsh temper by gentleness, their passion by meekness. For blessed are the meek and Moses was meek above all men. Wherefore Paul exhorts as follows: ‘The servant of the Lord must not strive, but be gentle towards all men, apt to teach, patient, in meekness instructing those that are in opposition.’"

Dr. John Calvin (Protestant Reformer; 1509-1564) had this to say of humility…


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