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How do you deal with the "concerned friend"?

I have a friend who, by reason of deduction, eventually figured out our living situation. We knew it was only a matter of time, as SW was babysitting for the family who were friends of ours from the church we stopped attending.

A little background, the wife of that family has… issues. She’s a closet feminist (as in she doesn’t really realize how deeply feminist she really is), she had abuse issues growing up and has a general distrust of men, and also has a sociology degree. A bad combination if you ask me. She is nice, and she has improved over the last several years that we’ve known her, but she’s still very insecure, as well as very very controlling in her family structure.

So, she figured out SW was preggy after she started showing, and our friend decided to "confront" her about it. Now, because SW is terrified of just about anyone she doesn’t know well, she freaked out and said probably quite a bit more than she should have. Which is fine, it would have been figured out eventually, however, some of the things she said didn’t really help the situation.

So our friend, decided that SW has been coerced into this (which really is the opposite in many ways, but that’s another story :) ), and kept offering refuge from this "bad" situation. After SW left, our friend kept calling her and leaving messages that she could come be "safe" at her house, that she didn’t have to stay here, etc. SW eventually left her a message back saying that she doesn’t mind watching the kids, but she won’t discuss her personal life with our friend. Our friend didn’t call back after that ;)

Fast forward a few weeks, and our friend finally decides to call me. Says the same thing… offers refuge, tells me that I am being abused and that I don’t have to live like this, hubby is very wrong, etc. I tried to tell her I am not being abused, that while I wasn’t thrilled at first it’s not so bad now, I had every choice to leave and chose not to, etc. She wouldn…


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Ok a little info on family issues

The kids are still in state custody, but we are at least now getting visitations. We finally set up a plan. Basically next month we have to take a mess load of assesments. Then we have to go to some counciling deal with the state on how to check a home for saftey issues. Then go to a parenting class then we can get our kids back. Still a little ways to go, but at least now we have some kind of plan and idea of how and when we will be able to get our children back. Thanks again for all the prayers! We feel truly blessed!


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